How do you to it? How do you keep it together after both of your children die traumatically? The truth is, you can’t at first.   Don’t expect that you will. Allow yourself to fall apart. Let friends and family be with you to listen without judgment as all of your emotions surface. Let out all that craziness you feel. Cry, scream, hug, talk (if you can). There will be time later to knit yourself together again. No one can say how you’ll manage it. Your solutions will be unique to you.